Joy

 

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Gaudete Sunday – The third Sunday of Advent. The term is derived from the Latin opening words of the introit antiphon, “Rejoice (Gaudete) in the Lord always.” The theme of the day expresses the joy of anticipation at the approach of the Christmas celebration.

I probably should have made the following statement earlier, but better late than never. I’m using the Advent themes for this year’s posts simply because hope, peace, joy and love are important to me at all times, but I’m especially aware of them at this time of year. This blog is meant to be all inclusive, however, and I believe that each of these themes can apply to everyone, regardless of their belief system. My background happens to be Christian, but I respect and make a point of learning about all faiths, as well as totally respecting those who do not believe in any kind of higher power.

Joy can be a complicated subject at this time of year. For many, the festive season is a truly happy time. Fun gatherings with friends and family, no financial worries to dampen the spirit, good health and lots of energy to fully participate in whatever special events they choose, etc. For others, it’s the most difficult time of the year. Loneliness, financial worries, poor health, grief, worries about loved ones, estrangement from family – these things and more can make joy very elusive during the holiday season.

I’m somewhere in the middle when it comes to festive joy, I suppose. I definitely find many sources of joy at this time of year, but can also relate to those feeling a sense of loss or missing out. I care less and less about being single, not having a social life, complicated birth family relationships, etc. as I get older, but the sad feeling is still there to some extent. There’s also the grief that comes from the limitations imposed by a chronic illness, but that, too, is becoming less of a joy stealer as the years pass.

Besides the company of my lovely daughter and her fiancé, the things that bring me festive joy are pretty simple:

– a favourite tea that’s only available during the Christmas season

– favourite seasonal movies and TV specials,

-Christmas music (both traditional and modern, but I tend to lean more towards traditional. It’s the comfort of associated happy memories, I think.)

-the sparkly Christmas tree and decorations

-neighbourhood lights that I can see from my windows

-reading about Christmas traditions around the world

– incorporating a Christmas theme into my hobbies

-indulging in a few favourite treats that I only have at this time of year, especially shortbread, gingerbread, and mincemeat tarts. Haven’t had a tart yet, but there’s still time!!

I hope that everyone who comes across this post can find at least a little joy this season. If you’re having a generally wonderful time, I’m absolutely, genuinely happy for you! If you’re struggling, please know that you’re not alone. My comments section is open if you need to vent, and please contact the community resources available in your part of the world if you need help getting through the holidays. Reaching out for help is not shameful or weak.